Showing posts with label Family. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Family. Show all posts
Perfect scene of a family, the loving parent and the obedient children with good financial background. Big house, luxury cars and a must - every year holidays. That only happen in almost all the dramas that we love to watch. In reality, what makes a good parent and a good family institution? The bond between parent and children is the essence of love and affection. Most couple got married happily and have children with a few who are not even worthy to be called parents. Prospectives parents must recognise their responsibilities and realise what parenthood involves.
First thing first, the essential of good parenthood is the acceptance of the role. Couples who become parent can no longer call their time their own. Taking charge of the household routine, prioritising family needs and making sacrifices. All that could be discussed and communicated between a parent. The world of affection which should surround a child should precede its birth. It is here that good parenthood begins.
Parenthood is a full-time task and the only way of cultivating the right habits in children is through example and by providing an atmosphere which is conducive to the growth of these qualities. A child learns these virtues at home and the influence of his parents can counteract all other influences whether good or bad.
This is the theoretical aspect; in practice, the recipe for good parenthood is love and understanding. These two envelop a whole world in themselves. Love means love in the right degree, love which does not ignore discipline, love which does not yield for the wrong reasons and for the wrong ends, love which can provide security and confidence for the growing child, love which leads to sacrifices and makes one devote some time and join in enjoying the simple pleasures of childhood. Understanding means trying to find what the child wants and why, giving him the freedom to try new ideas, to experiment with hobbies and learn from the world of nature. Understanding in love becomes hiding one's fears and allowing the child to develop a sense of adventure and fearlessness; it means loving without clinging. It is not only confined to this, it extends further. It includes patience and forbearance. There may be occasions when a child may be afraid of things: of participation in social and public functions, of swimming of heights and endless other things. Understanding means trying to find out the reasons for the fear and perhaps giving in for the time being and helping the child to overcome it gradually.
Whatever is of value in the human character is born out of love and understanding. There can be no strict rules that one should say "No"' or put one's foot down or allow a child complete freedom. Each situation has to be judged and examined individually and each parent has to make the decision himself or herself. But there can be one rule: don't corrupt the child. Don't teach it to accept the second best, don't bribe it into obedience, don't be tyrannized by its tantrums, don't blackmail it or allow it to blackmail you. If the child remains incorruptible, it has every chance of growing up to be a person of generosity and compassion.
Being a good parent is in itself a process of growing up. One should have the capacity to love and to love wisely: it is this kind of person who makes a good parent. Share yourself with your children and they will love you and learn from you.
What makes a happy and successful marriage?
Nowadays, it is not easy to find a successful marriage. It needs effort from both sides to make a marriage happy and successful one. Basic recipe of a happy marriage will definitely be love, respect, faith, sacrifices and good communication between the two people sharing a life as husband and wife.
Lets talk about respect in a marriage. Respect has been known as the key to a successful marriage. Respect each other. Treat our spouse the way we want to be treated. It is never about one person, it is about two. A great way to show respect is to be honest and faithful.
Faith has always been an important part of most of our life, from childhood to being an adult. It has given us a strong sense of who we are. Naturally we wanted someone who felt the same sense of self, as we did, in religion. Having the same religious and spiritual beliefs are part of criteria many people use when seeking a marriage partner. They feel strongly that the person they are going to marry should have the same traditions and customs, and intensity of belief as they themselves do. For them, it is an integral part of marriage.
Be ever ready to trust & sacrifice for the good of the marriage. Most importantly be ready to sacrifice your time, your pleasures and be willing to accept things and habits that will never change in your partner. Be a believer that love change and develop to all good things. So work your marriage towards that and it will grow healthily and happily. Give trust at 100% to your partner and be honest all the time and trust everything will be fine.
A good communication makes a successful marriage. Start easily with being a good listener. Listen with your heart and when it is time to talk things, talk lovingly and sensibly. Never ever bring up the past mistakes and always be ready to admit or to forgive. Communication is a space for both to share sentiments and ideas. Let out your hopes and fears with your partner to make your marriage more workable in the midst of your busy daily lives.
Above all, love is the most important essence in a happy, successful marriage. Rekindle your love everyday like the first time you fell in love. In conclusion, trust, effective communication, and forgiveness are the keys for a happy, healthy marriage.
Setiap Syawal menjelma, setiap itu juga cerita kekeluargaan yang paling utama.
Seboleh-bolehnya, ayah dan ibu orang yang pertama kita cari untuk memohon keampunan di
pagi Syawal. Namun tidak semua keluarga menjalani pengalaman kehidupan yang sama. Pada
masa semua insan bermaafan sekeluarga, ada juga yang mengharungi duka. Pada mereka yang ketiadaan
kaum keluarga, pergi selamanya, berlinangan airmata beraya tanpa mereka yang tercinta.
Bagi mereka yang menghadapi dugaan, berbalah serta bersengketa diantara keluarga, tiada
jalan lain selain bermaafan sahaja. Sukar mungkin memaafkan tetapi hakikatnya hanya Allah swt sahaja
yang patut menghukum bukan kita manusia biasa. Apalah daya kita. Selain menerima segalanya dengan
hati ikhlas dan pasrah dengan ketentuan, takdir Allah swt.
Ibu, Ayah......seburuk mana pun mereka, itulah anugerah Allah buat kita. Walaupun tidak sempurna
cara mereka membesarkan kita sehingga meletakkan kita kedalam keadaan susah, perit dan apa2 jua
yang kurang, mereka tetap ibu yang melahirkan (walaupun kita anak yang tidak dikehendaki/benci) dan
ayah yang menghempas kudratnya demi membesarkan kita (mungkin ada ayah yang tidak menghiraukan langsung) mereka tetap insan yang menjadikan kita melihat dunia ini. Arahkanlah hati kita pada NYA dan
perbanyakkan doa agar kita selalu mengingati insan yang bergelar Ibu dan Ayah ini walau hanya
di dalam hati.
PS: Emak, Abah, anakmu ini memohon keampunan kerana tak mampu menjadi anak sesempurna yang
emak dan abah inginkan. Insya'allah, telah anakmu ini letakkan Emak dan Abah pada setiap doaku.
Semoga Allah swt memberkati setiap pengorbanan yang telah Emak dan Abah lakukan untuk anakmu ini.
Belanja Raya saya....iklan penuh makna!
Source from: WebMD.com
Asperger's syndrome, also called Asperger's disorder, is a type of pervasive developmental disorder (PDD). PDDs are a group of conditions that involve delays in the development of many basic skills, most notably the ability to socialize with others, to communicate, and to use imagination.
Although Asperger's syndrome is similar in some ways to autism -- another, more severe type of PDD -- there are some important differences. Children with Asperger's syndrome typically function better than do those with autism. In addition, children with Asperger's syndrome generally have normal intelligence and near-normal language development, although they may develop problems communicating as they get older.
Asperger's syndrome was named for the Austrian doctor, Hans Asperger, who first described the disorder in 1944. However, Asperger's syndrome was not recognized as a unique disorder until much later.
What Are the Symptoms of Asperger's Syndrome?
The symptoms of Asperger's syndrome vary and can range from mild to severe. Common symptoms include:
- Problems with social skills: Children with Asperger's syndrome generally have difficulty interacting with others and often are awkward in social situations. They generally do not make friends easily. They have difficulty initiating and maintaining conversation.
- Eccentric or repetitive behaviors: Children with this condition may develop odd, repetitive movements, such as hand wringing or finger twisting.
- Unusual preoccupations or rituals: A child with Asperger's syndrome may develop rituals that he or she refuses to alter, such as getting dressed in a specific order.
- Communication difficulties: People with Asperger's syndrome may not make eye contact when speaking with someone. They may have trouble using facial expressions and gestures, and understanding body language. They also tend to have problems understanding language in context and are very literal in their use of language.
- Limited range of interests: A child with Asperger's syndrome may develop an intense, almost obsessive, interest in a few areas, such as sports schedules, weather, or maps.
- Coordination problems: The movements of children with Asperger's syndrome may seem clumsy or awkward.
- Skilled or talented: Many children with Asperger's syndrome are exceptionally talented or skilled in a particular area, such as music or math.
What Causes Asperger's Syndrome?
The exact cause of Asperger's syndrome is not known. However, the fact that it tends to run in families suggests that a tendency to develop the disorder may be inherited (passed on from parent to child).
How Common Is Asperger's Syndrome?
Asperger's syndrome has only recently been recognized as a unique disorder. For that reason, the exact number of people with the disorder is unknown. While it is more common than autism, estimates for the United States and Canada range from 1 in every 250 children to 1 in every 10,000. It is four times more likely to occur males than in females and usually is first diagnosed in children between the ages of 2 and 6 years.
To my 3 Lovely children, always remember that no matter what happens
I Will Always Be There for You
When Mothers Don’t Bond With Their
Daughters
With motherhood so
idealized in our culture, it is especially hard for daughters
of narcissistic
mothers to face their past. It's difficult for most people to conceive
of a
mother incapable of loving and nurturing her daughter, and certainly no
daughter wants to believe that of her own mother.
"I'm dancing
through a summery green meadow carpeted with delicate
wildflowers and shaded
with stately trees. There's a melodic brook whispering
through the tall grass.
In a clearing, I spy a beautiful, spirited mare, a flawlessly
white horse,
which is grazing unperturbed by my approach. I run to her joyously,
anticipating her whinny of appreciation and approval as I offer the apple I
pick from
a nearby grove. She ignores me and the fruit and viciously bites my
shoulder instead,
then returns to her foraging with complete
indifference."
• Why do I never feel good enough?
• Why do I feel so empty?
• Why do I always doubt myself?
"
• Why do I never feel good enough?
• Why do I feel so empty?
• Why do I always doubt myself?
"
Seorang Ibu yang begitu teruja apabila mengetahui bahawa dirinya hamil anak pertama. Si bakal bapa pula merasa dirinya mula mempunyai matlamat dalam kehidupan kerana zuriatnya bakal lahir kedunia. Kedua Ibu bapa ini begitu gembira dan mula mengorak langkah ke hadapan berazam menjadi ibu bapa yang bertanggungjawab serta mempersiapkan diri dalam apa jua bentuk bagi membesarkan insan yang istimewa yang bakal lahir nanti.Sudah tentu bukan mudah bagi seorang ibu itu menjalani hari-harinya membawa bayi yang dikandung itu. Bebagai ujian dilalui, dari alahan, keadaan diri tak menentu serta perasaan yang sering bertukar mengikut keadaan dan situasi. Sungguh, bukan sesuatu yang mudah! Namun ada segelintir ibu-ibu yang menambah ilmu dengan membaca dan mendalami ilmu Al-Quran yang mengajar mereka bagaimana mengatasi dugaan dan kepayahan yang dilalui sewaktu hamil. Semoga kita adalah di dalam golongan ibu-ibu yang begini. Si bapa pula mula melakar masadepan serta bekerja keras menabung untuk masadepan insan yang akan dibesarkan nanti. Tentu memerlukan banyak pengorbanan, fisikal dan mental. Bukan sahaja persiapan berbentuk materi tetapi juga persiapan tenaga serta perasaan. Apa jua yang bakal di berikan pada insan yang bakal lahir nanti, semoga bakal ibu bapa ini akan melakukan yang terbaik untuk si anak itu tadi. Seiring itu keikhlasan penting dalam membesarkan dan mencorak masa depan mereka. Kasih sayang yang tiada syarat dan mengikut syariat Islam harus selalu di semat dalam hati agar niat kita sebagai ibu bapa tidak lari dari tanggungjawab sebenar serta amanah yang di berikan pada kita. Suatu tugas yang amat berat tetapi akan memberi kesan yang amat berharga dalam diri kita. Ingatlah! anak itu adalah amanah Allah swt pada kita. Jangan sesekali kita membesarkan mereka dengan harapan mereka akan membalasnya di kemudian hari. Telah dijanjikan andai kita ikhlas dan menjalankan tanggungjawab kita sebagai ibu bapa dan membesarkan mereka mengikut ajaran dan panduan yang Islam telah gariskan, insya'allah balasannya akan datang dari Allah swt dalam diri anak itu sendiri. Semoga kita tergolong di dalam ibu bapa yang begini. Amin!
Inginkan Tips-tips mendidik anak-anak?
INTAI sebentar tips dari Prof Muhaya....
- Kanak kanak yg dibesarkan dgn pujian menjadi yakin pada diri dan anak anak yg dibesarkan dgn kritikan dan cemuhan hilang keyakinan diri.
- Audit bagaimana kita besarkan anak anak kita
- Para ibu bapa harus ikhlas mendidik anak anak jadi pencen kubor kita yang akan mendoakan kita bila kita di alam barzah. Jangan sekali niat mendidik anak untuk membuat kita bangga. Bayangkan anak anak kita bersama kita menuju syurga di padang mahsyar. Kalau ini tujuan kita lihat betapa ia akan mengubah cara kita fikir, rasa dan bertindak.
- Jangan sekali mencari penghargaan manusia dalam mendidik anak. Hanya redha Allah. Ini akan mengubah bahasa di rumah kita. Perkataaan " apa orang kata" akan hilang akan timbul" apa Allah lihat dan apa Nabi Muhamaad saw akan buat dalam situasi ini.
Pandang anak anak dan suami atau isteri dgn penuh kasih sayang dan katakan betapa bersyukur mereka berada dalam kehidupan kita
• Perhatikan perangai kita. Adakah membuat perkara bermanafaat, menyenangkan, memudahkan, memberi galakan, kasih sayang atau sebaliknya dengan pandangan, perkataan dan perbuatan kita pada orang lain. Lepas itu nilai hasil kehidupan kita. Ia akan bersamaan apa kita telah beri pada dunia selama ini. Jika buruk yang kita beri maka buruk yang kita dapat.
• Jika kita merasakan kita sentiasa saling bergantungan sesama insan maka kita akan sentiasa mersa belas kasihan dan berkasih sayang sesama insan. betulkan diri sendiri sebelum mebetulkan orang lain dan ajak orang buat kebaikan bukan memandang rendah pada sesiapa. Setiap orang berlainan tahap kesedaran mereka
• Jadikan kasih sayang fokus hidup kita dan lihat apa yang akan berkembang dalam hidup
• Masa depan kita dapat kita ketahui dengan melihat fikiran kita sekarang. Jika positif insyaAllah positif, jika sentiasa berfikir memberi manfaat insyaAllah akan mendapat menafaat. apa kita beri itu kita dapat
• Setiap hari niat memberi kasih sayang pada anak anak dan sentiasa sebut bersyukur mempunyai anak yang baik dan beriman dan sebutkan ini pada mereka. Jika kita tidak beriman bagaimana anak anak akan beriman. Minta maaf pada anak anak atas kesalahan kita mendidik mereka hingga tidak menjadi seperti yang ISlam mahukan . Lihat bagaimana respon mereka.Tentu akan jadi lembut. Ini ubat yang baik untuk anak anak remaja yg nakal
• Perhatikan perangai kita. Adakah membuat perkara bermanafaat, menyenangkan, memudahkan, memberi galakan, kasih sayang atau sebaliknya dengan pandangan, perkataan dan perbuatan kita pada orang lain. Lepas itu nilai hasil kehidupan kita. Ia akan bersamaan apa kita telah beri pada dunia selama ini. Jika buruk yang kita beri maka buruk yang kita dapat.
• Jika kita merasakan kita sentiasa saling bergantungan sesama insan maka kita akan sentiasa mersa belas kasihan dan berkasih sayang sesama insan. betulkan diri sendiri sebelum mebetulkan orang lain dan ajak orang buat kebaikan bukan memandang rendah pada sesiapa. Setiap orang berlainan tahap kesedaran mereka
• Jadikan kasih sayang fokus hidup kita dan lihat apa yang akan berkembang dalam hidup
• Masa depan kita dapat kita ketahui dengan melihat fikiran kita sekarang. Jika positif insyaAllah positif, jika sentiasa berfikir memberi manfaat insyaAllah akan mendapat menafaat. apa kita beri itu kita dapat
• Setiap hari niat memberi kasih sayang pada anak anak dan sentiasa sebut bersyukur mempunyai anak yang baik dan beriman dan sebutkan ini pada mereka. Jika kita tidak beriman bagaimana anak anak akan beriman. Minta maaf pada anak anak atas kesalahan kita mendidik mereka hingga tidak menjadi seperti yang ISlam mahukan . Lihat bagaimana respon mereka.Tentu akan jadi lembut. Ini ubat yang baik untuk anak anak remaja yg nakal
